Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Dating While Married

Have I ever mentioned that I have an awesome father-in-law? After spending just a small amount of time with him, it's easy to see that he has a lot to offer the world.  He is quick to share bites of wisdom regarding most subjects and is a retired art teacher who has now delved whole-heartedly into marriage and family therapy simply out of a desire to help those who are struggling.  And after being married for nearly 40 years and raising 4 children, including my awesome husband who I (of course) write about quite often, he is the perfect guy for the job.

I'm not saying this just because he is going to be visiting shortly after the baby is born and I want to earn brownie points with him, but because I want to share an interview that he did recently.  He is very passionate about teaching couples to maintain healthy marriages and, as a result, advocates for continuing to "date" while married.

And no, this isn't a reference to "Sister Wives."  If you've followed the popular TLC show at all, you'll know what I'm talking about.  Although Cody had 3 wives, he began dating a 4th woman resulting in a 4th marriage.  When Frank (my father-in-law) talks about dating, he is talking about kindling the romance between a man and wife-not going out and dating an entirely new person.  Any married couple can tell you about the butterflies, the excitement, and the chemistry that existed during the dating period.  My relationship with Ryan was no exception.  Ask him and he'll be quick to tell you about all the blushing I did when we were dating.  He'd show up at my dorm and I'd blush.  He'd compliment me and I'd blush.  He'd kiss me and I'd blush.  It was a never-ending cycle that sometimes left me embarrassed, but I had no control over it.

And while these days certainly contain a lot less blushing, Ryan's parents have provided us with a great example of what a lasting and loving marriage is.

If you'd like to be let in on a few of their secrets to a lasting marriage, you should definitely check out this interview on dating while married.  It's about 30 minutes long, but worth every minute.

And if you're interested in reading a little more on this subject, here are a few recent articles written by other bloggers:

Simple Mom: The Power Behind Date Nights
Simple Marriage: The Best Way to Date Your Spouse



  1. How awesome to have such a great legacy of a good marriage in your father in law. Sounds really special!

  2. Nice post! We listened to the interview via podcast in the car, and the kids all think papa is famous now!!!

  3. Thanks for letting me know about this interview. It's very interesting. I saw your post on The #parenting Daily.

  4. My parents are thankfully very pro-dating too, so they keep our kids for us all the time so we can date! Our next one is Friday night - can't wait!!